Drying ‘Social Shock-absorbers’ in Tamilnadu, and
increasing ‘loneliness’
New Tips to be free from ‘loneliness’
Among the members of families, workplaces, literary &
arts related forums, private & Govt organizations, all seemed to be engaged
in a battle of the social comparison; ‘who is superior? Or how to be superior’;
visible or partly visible or invisible depending on the status of the competing
persons and the venues of the battle. (‘How comparison becomes the thief of our
joy?’; https://veepandi.blogspot.com/2013/12/normal-0-false-false-false-en-us-x-none_18.html)
The social consequences of the above battles are the drying
of the ‘Social Shock-absorbers’ and increasing ‘loneliness’, leading to depression, suicides, drug
addiction, and other such damages, even among the school children in Tamilnadu.
Another interesting aspect is that the same persons are
both the culprits and victims related to these consequences.
When we feel like unloading our worries and stress related
problems, we look for understanding persons as our social shock - absorber. If
that person started exploiting our unloading for his selfish agenda or avoid us
as no value to his human merchant interests, then we will start fearing to
unload to anyone who is a human merchant.
Also, if such culprits tries to use us or anybody as the social shock
absorber to unload his/her worries, everyone, aware of his/her human merchant
nature, will try to avoid them. In that
process, the culprits too become the victims of having no option to unload
their worries. Also, they could not escape from the consequences of the
negative processing of their brain for corruption & exploitation.
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W81CHn4l4AM)
Anyone infected with social comparison will have socially
induced needs to earn more and more money. Also, those infected with comfort
life style will focus to move towards the greener pastures.
Nature and society have innumerable mysterious treasures
denied to the above fools with compromising weak ethics to avoid the suffering
and to achieve their goals, causing unbelievable damages to the Nature and
Society.
(https://veepandi.blogspot.com/2019/10/the-keys-in-akam-and-puram-innumerable.html)
‘loneliness is a state of mind experienced by those feeling
lonely. It is also important to note that loneliness reflects the absence of
communication, not the absence of people. So even if the sufferer is around people,
the fact that they are unable to connect with those people is what causes them
to feel lonely… Many studies have shown that loneliness can have serious
effects on one’s health.’ (https://www.pacificprime.sg/blog/loneliness-among-the-elderly-can-lead-to-health-problems/)
‘Contributing factors to loneliness include situational
variables, such as physical isolation, moving to a new location, and divorce. The
death of someone significant in a person's life can also lead to feelings of
loneliness. Additionally, it can be a symptom of a psychological disorder such
as depression.’ (Cacioppo JT, Fowler JH, Christakis NA. Alone in the Crowd: The
Structure and Spread of Loneliness in a Large Social Network. Journal of
Personality and Social Psychology. January 1, 2010;97(6):977-991. doi:10.1037/a0016076.)
The above factors are individual dependent.
Tips to Prevent and Overcome Loneliness included;
‘Focus on
developing quality relationships with people who share similar attitudes,
interests, and values with you.’ (https://www.verywellmind.com/loneliness-causes-effects-and-treatments-2795749)
For researches to identify the social dependent factors
contributing to loneliness, Tamilnadu may prove to be a valuable social
laboratory.
To brief how the social dependent factors contributing to
loneliness developed in Tamilnadu from 1970s, I could share my experiences.
Prior to my entry into ‘Periyar’ movement during late
1970s, only those who shared similar
attitudes, interests, and values with me were in my social circle; we always
supporting the right and just.
Hoping to extend the above
to the public domain, I started associating with the ‘Periyar’ Movement. Obviously,
a new social circle was encircling me, while I was moving away from the above
good social circle.
To counter the criticism
against E.V.R from pro-communist circles, I turned my attention to the writings
of Marx, Engels, Lenin, Mao, etc, becoming an expert to challenge pro-communist
persons, with great appreciation from pro-EVR persons who were becoming my new
social circle.
With no time to undertake a
similar probe with respect to anti-Tamil views of E.V.R, I was becoming the
ardent supporter of E.V.R’s uncompromised anti-Brahmin pro-independent
Tamilnadu ideology. When Elam groups were taking roots in Tamilnadu during
1980s, I started associating with LTTE. The present ‘Periyar’ parties’ leaders
were aware of my role in strengthening LTTE to overtake TELO & PLOTE. Later I was unhappy with LTTE’s
intolerance towards criticism and the domination of the public life merchants.
In fact, such unhappy
experiences forced me to quit my public life and divert to music research. To
my surprise, my research applying ‘Physics of Music’ to the ancient Tamil
texts, revealed how E.V.R was wrong on the ancient Tamil texts, and how he
contributed to a complex psychological Tamil Identity distortion related social
diseases in TN.’
(http://tamilsdirection.blogspot.com/2020/01/normal-0-false-false-false-en-us-x-none_27.html)
Also Elam struggle suffered
a collateral damage.
Unaware of the pitfalls in
the support from the ‘social spine’ weakened TN corrupt separatists, Elam
separatists groups suffered social cancerous growth to serve the selfish
political interests of the then Indian PM Indira Gandhi. The consequent fight
among themselves eliminated one by one, finally leaving LTTE with suicidal
anti-criticism infection, to lead the struggle, discarding all the options in
the way, to end in mullivakkAl tragedy. (http://tamilsdirection.blogspot.com/2017/02/blog-post_19.html).
If no lessons learnt, it may prove to be
a small-scale Palestine like issue, dragging on endlessly.
My new pro-E.V.R social
circle neither supported the above discovery nor dared to oppose it with the
evidences. Worse, some of them started attributing motives
to my discoveries That became another area of my social research leading to the
discovery of ‘Colonial Psychopaths & Dravida Psychopaths’
(https://tamilsdirection.blogspot.com/2019/12/normal-0-false-false-false-en-us-x-none.html)
Dravida Psychopaths spread
social colour blindness, that helped the corrupt politicians to brand any
criticism as ‘anti-Tamil & pro-Brahmin’ to indulge in check free
corruption.
Also, the reluctance to
debate C.N.Annadurai’s U-turn with respect Kambaramayanam ( defaming in
pre-1967 & glorifying by erecting a statue for Kambar in post-1967) suggested
the intellectual bankruptcy that had engulfed Tamilnadu.
The participants in a
discussion mostly fail to confine to the subject of the discussion and start
attributing motives to the persons differing from their views. Worse, they will
start questioning the credentials of the differing persons. This social disease
in the intellectual field had grown in proportion to the growth of the social
polarization of pro-Brahmin and anti-Brahmin, a kind of social colour
blindness.
With my understanding of the word ‘lumpen’, I
thought I could identify the above persons as ‘lumpen intellectuals’. To my
surprise, my google search for ‘lumpen intellectual’ led to many links for the current
world interest in the newly coined term ‘lumpen intellectual.
(https://left.wikia.org/wiki/Lumpen_intellectual)
The social space for the intellectuals
questioning the damages to Taminadu had shrink.
Hence Tamilnadu is becoming a
valuable social laboratory for
researches to identify the social dependent factors contributing to the drying
‘Social Shock-absorbers’ and increasing social loneliness.
No wonder, I started living alone as my
preference of the new pro-E.V.R social circle had caused my previous social
circle defunct.
Surprisingly my lonely life
did not lead to the suffering of the ‘loneliness’.
Our strength to pursue our passions to the
ultimate victory will depend on our personal social circle, the most precious
asset deciding the nature of our relation to the society & nature. Can we escape from experiencing the curse in
this life and in the next life through our genes, by damaging the society and
the nature?
My passions and my discovery of nature as the sources of
music and dance from the ancient Tamil texts, blessed me with a new life journey to identify the right persons for my new social circle,
that included birds, trees, etc and inanimate
objects.
In Tamilnadu, money had replaced God, and those who live
with moral order, spirituality and an ethical compass, are treated as fools in
their social circle including the family. Those with ill-gotten wealth are
respected as VIPs in all social and family functions.
(http://tamilsdirection.blogspot.com/2014/10/normal-0-false-false-false-en-us-x-none_10.html)
Every morning, to say ‘good morning’ to those robots like
human beings, I avoid.
Instead, in my morning walks I say ‘Good Morning’ to the
birds & trees, all living beings I come across. Though they may not
understand my verbal communication, they understand my emotion and respond.
To those who may doubt me, the following will clarify.
According to the Indian scientist Sir Jagadish Chandra Bose,
a plant treated with care and affection gives out a different vibration
compared to a plant subjected to torture.”;
When you are extremely happy
due to unforeseen positive development like winning a gold medal or birth of a
child in normal delivery, etc, your face and body language will radiate so much
happiness that even strangers (even if they were in dull mood) around you (who
may not know you or the reason) can sensitize your happiness and feels
energized partly reflecting in their face and body language.
During my walk both in the
morning and evening, some times during winds, I used to witness the up and down
rhythmic moving branches with leaves in matching rhythmic movements in the
trees (paripAtal 17; 10-20). It just reminded me the radiating happiness mentioned above.
We may not know the
‘emotion’ (which science had begun to unravel) of the trees. Still we can
sensitize the happiness like the strangers mentioned above.
Minus the human intervention
of the definition, the life in nature’s view has no death but only
transformation in the role of atoms and molecules.
Hence say good morning to
not only to birds and trees, also to the ‘inanimate’ live objects like rocks,
clouds in sky with wonderful designs and colours during sun rise. We, a part of
nature, say good morning to the other parts of nature as we say to the other
human beings; https://veepandi.blogspot.com/2012/11/normal-0-false-false-false_27.html
Do they, the inanimate, have
life?
Till my friend had arranged
a care taker for me, I was living alone for some years. Interestingly I did not
feel lonely.
When I leave the house
forgetting to take my pen, etc, my shirt is pulled from behind. Looking back, a
hook on the door was doing it, like human being, reminding me that I forgot
something. Immediately I sit down on a chair to reflect till I found out the
thing I forgot to take.
Both animate & inanimate
things have molecules in constant vibration. The only difference is the ‘life
process’ involving the molecules in the case of animate things. Both verbal
& nonverbal communication among the animate things is related to the ‘life processes.
Can we be certain that the
absence of the ‘life process’ in inanimate things would mean no other process
involving the vibrating molecules?
Also, why not the nonverbal
communication of different kind possible in that different process in the case
of inanimate things?
In Sanskrit, VASTU means
un-manifest and VAASTU means manifest energy related to all the bodies animate
and inanimate, distinguished by the presence and absence of the ‘life process’
respectively.
"If we go back to the
idea of nature as a living organism, the whole of nature as being alive, and
ourselves as living beings within a living world -- a living world that has
many levels of organization, from molecules, atoms, cells, the whole planet,
the solar system, the galaxy, the whole universe -- at every level there's a
kind of integrity or wholeness that's more than the sum of the parts -- then we
can think about the relation between science and religion in a new light, a
different way than has been possible for the last three hundred years."
(http://www.intuition.org/txt/sheldrak.htm & https://www.context.org/iclib/ic12/sheldrak/)
In all communications
signals and noises are mixed. The skill of reception would depend on
segregating the signal from the noises during the reception.
When my shirt was pulled
from behind as narrated above, I might have thought it just as an act of
carelessness on my part and remove the hook from my shirt. It would mean that I
had treated a valuable signal as just a noise of my carelessness. I, the
receiver was wrong then.
If we are the source of
positive vibrations consciously distancing ourselves from the sources of
negative vibrations, we may be blessed to sensitize the signals from nature
including the inanimate things.
I am a beginner as a
receiver to sense the signals from the nature including inanimate things. I am
blessed to receive more such signals.
I am aware that I need to be
a shelter of positive vibrations, and I need to be open minded to be blessed,
to be the receiver. (‘Experiencing God, the Infinite, through Resonance’; https://veepandi.blogspot.com/2014/04/normal-0-false-false-false-en-us-x-none.html
None in my now discarded
pro-E.V.R social circle had refuted the above blogpost, though in all my social
circles I had encouraged criticism.
Also, when we interact with
birds, trees & inanimate things, we do not need to be as alert as we need
to do with the ‘insecure’ human beings, to avoid the pitfall of the infection
of comparison referred in the beginning.
I was a born catholic,
brought up in non-Catholic Hindu environment, later rationalist turned ‘Periyarist’,
finally transforming into ipso facto proud ‘Hindu’. Unlike the Abrahamic religions,
Hindu is not a religion, but a way of life worshiping all in nature including
birds, trees, & inanimate objects; with a maximum possible human freedom to
worship any god, in any manner, or not worshiping with no consequent
punishments found in the Abrahamic religions.
I had brief exposure of Catholic
social life during my school final days and later during post 55 years age. I
had come across few honest Catholics who unsuccessfully dared to question
the unethical acts of the priests. Even among Muslims there might be some honest
Muslims questioning the unethical acts of the Muslim clergy and leaders. In my
view, there is social scope for uniting all the honest people in Hindus, Muslims
& Christians to check all the unethical acts including illegal appropriating
the properties of the temples, churches and mosques.
In my view, only honest
people could have the blessings of the God, the infinite; no short cut methods,
sacrificing honesty, to fool God.
All human communication is
finite,
and hence incapable of
handling the infinite,
which can only be
experienced,
reminding us the limits of
the human communication,unknown to those who deny
God.
We have the option to
experience the infinite, God, through resonance experience, if we are
successful in tuning our mind and body - with the related self-discipline. No
need to force others, who had not realized the need to explore the option.(
https://veepandi.blogspot.com/2014/04/normal-0-false-false-false-en-us-x-none.html)
All the sufferings, humiliations and betrayal I had come
across had in fact trained me to discover and share the keys for joyful
adventurous life.
In Moksha Patam, an ancient Indian board game in our lives,
the snake downfall may prove to be blessing for later big climb, and the ladder
climb may prove to be downfall, all helping to reach our deserving place at the
final phase of our life journey.
(https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Snakes_and_Ladders)
At present, the new fast rich people, excelling
in corrupt & unethical practices, command VIP respect in family and social
functions, over ruling the traditional priority in the family and social circles.
Those who live with moral order, spirituality and an ethical compass, are
treated as fools in their social circle including the family.
Unless we practice the reverse discrimination
to exclude corrupt & unethical persons in our personal social circle, we
cannot ensure the divine guidance to reach a blessed place at the final phase
of our life journey; denied to the fools in the upper middle class and affluent people who
worship the new rich.
In spite of all possible security arrangements, every day
is in fact a bonus life for us in the light of the following unforeseen dangers
around us.
Anyone living with security guards is not safe as late
Indian PM Indira Gandhi’s assassination had demonstrated.
Even a minor circuit fault or wrong input may distort a
drone to kill unintended persons.
We had seen how even the most developed countries could not
rescue some of their citizens from the Nature’s fury.
The meteorite that exploded in central Russia few years
before and innumerable objects circling around our earth remind us the
uncertainty of our lives.
The above innumerable list including the kinds of weapons
we are accumulating and the increasing tribe of selfish leaders in the countries,
suggest that every day is in fact a bonus life for us.
Every morning, when I wake up, I am happy to be alive and vow
to spend that day in viable joyful way.
Can I afford to waste that day worrying about death?
I like to smell and enjoy life and hence I try to avoid the
‘dead’ robot like human beings always working to use all relationships and
interactions only to earn money and influence - drowning in the infection of
comparison.
I start the day with morning walk communicating ‘Good
Morning’ to birds and trees.
I enjoy the music (from the birds, thunder, etc) and dance
(the trees, river flow, etc) in nature.
I involve in activities that gives meaning to my life and
joy to me.
In case death comes to me, I shall welcome it with joy as
the day was spent in joy and most of the days in my life were spent in joy as I
had divorced myself from the negative sources of memory, persons and places.
A bonus life is only for positive joyful life, possible
only for a Hindu with maximum possible human freedom.
